How to Choose the Best Therapist for You
Finding a mental health clinician who is the right fit for you can be challenging. Therapy still carries a certain stigma, and because of that, it can feel difficult to ask how to actually find a good therapist. But don't worry—We're here to break it down. Let’s dive in.
1. Decide If You Want to Use Insurance or Pay Out of Pocket
One of the first steps in finding a clinician is deciding how you'll pay for therapy. Fortunately, more and more insurance companies are covering therapy services. Be sure to check what your insurance covers and if therapy is included. If you don’t have insurance or if your plan doesn’t cover therapy, there are still options. Some clinicians work on a sliding scale, adjusting their fees based on your income, so you can still get the support you need.
If you're part of a specific population, you might also qualify for free services. For example, in Albuquerque, there are free counseling services for survivors of domestic violence. If you're a student, your campus may offer therapy options, too. And don't forget about your workplace—many employers offer an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) that includes mental health support.
2. Understand Your Therapy Goals
Before seeking therapy, take some time to reflect on what you're hoping to achieve. Are you seeking self-care? Help with relationship issues? Career support? Are you ready to dive into deep trauma work? Be clear about your goals, as this will help guide your search for the right clinician.
When you meet with a therapist, they'll likely ask you about your goals for treatment. Your first session will involve an assessment and/or intake, where they gather important information to help get to know you and what you want to accomplish with your time together. It's crucial that your therapist practices within their area of expertise, so make sure they specialize in what you need. For instance, if you're focused on career goals or relationships, a clinician who primarily treats substance use may not be the best fit.
3. Meet the Clinician and See If It’s a Good Fit
Finding the right therapist is a lot like finding the right pair of shoes—sometimes, the first one you try on just won’t fit, and that’s perfectly okay. You need a therapist who suits you and your needs, and the right “fit” is essential for your progress. Therapy is a place where you’ll be vulnerable and explore different parts of yourself. If you don’t feel comfortable with your therapist, it’s harder to do that work.
Trust your instincts! If you don’t click with a therapist, it’s okay to keep looking. It’s not about hurting anyone’s feelings—therapists understand that finding the right fit is crucial to successful treatment.
On the other hand, if you feel like you're not connecting because the therapist is challenging you in ways you’re not used to, that can be a positive sign. Just like with shoes, sometimes a little discomfort means you're on the right path—therapy is about growth, and the right therapist will push you to step outside your comfort zone.
Finding the right mental health clinician may take some time, but the effort is worth it. Take your time, listen to your needs, and trust yourself. Your mental health journey is important, and the right therapist can make all the difference.
